Addison Rae doesn’t let enemies get her down. The covers of the 20-year-old TikTok star Glamor UKin the February digital issue and reflects on the “online hate” he receives, much of which has to do with body image.
“It is something very difficult to deal with when you are a child, especially in adolescence,” she says. “I’m 20 years old and my body is constantly changing, but people have this high standard for body image and say, ‘Oh, you have to look like this to look great or to look sexy or to be cool or pretty.’
“To me, a lot of people have said, ‘Oh, I love how comfortable it is and it doesn’t seem like the standard of beauty.’ Sometimes it’s an ambiguous compliment because people say, ‘I’m glad you’re sure you don’t look perfect,’ “Rae continues.” Sometimes it hurts when people say that, because I think they’re all perfect, so why is there a standard of ‘this body is the ideal body’? “
Although she is against the idea that there is an ideal body, Rae admits to being the victim of pressure from social beauty standards once or twice.
“I used to wonder, ‘Why doesn’t my body look like this? Or why doesn’t my hair look like this? Or why is my face like this?’ Or even in terms of characteristics, sometimes I would just look at myself and distinguish myself for no reason, “she says. “There is so much going on in the world today, adding self-esteem to that is really difficult. If you can’t love who you are mentally, emotionally or physically, it becomes really difficult to even be happy.”
“I know I have not eaten the best during my quarantine or maybe I have not been exercising as much and watching a lot of television, but we have to be funny,” adds Rae.
Allowing herself that grace is something Rae began to do as a result of her time in therapy.
“I started seeing a therapist, which was really helpful in not feeling so bad about myself,” she says. “Self esteem is a great thing that I have been working on the last few months because it is definitely a real struggle and it affects you in your daily life, not having high self esteem.”
“Therapy is a great way to work on that and it’s an outlet to talk about the things that bother you internally,” Rae continues. “Just being able to have someone to talk to has been very important to me and to understand that if you let people understand you a little more, they will.”
Among her biggest takeaways, therapy helped Rae feel worthy and loved the way she is.
“There is a quote that I love: ‘Comparison is the thief of joy.’ That’s so true because when you start comparing yourself to someone, you’re just asking to be upset because you’re comparing yourself to something you’ll never be, because it’s just you, “he says.” … I’ve thought a lot in the last year that I didn’t really defines and I am learning to love my body and who I am, for what I am “.
As for those negative comments, which Rae believes come from a “totally understandable” place of “envy,” something that she has also felt herself, the TikTok star does her best not to affect her.
“That doesn’t define me, and they don’t really know me in my heart,” he says. “There will be people who don’t like you and who want to knock you down, but you have to love yourself for who you are.”
In addition to therapy, Rae has relied on her friends and family, including one of her best friends, Kourtney Kardashian.
“It’s really inspiring to see people so happy in their lives and so reunited after everything they’ve been through,” says Rae. “That’s why I really admire Kourtney and her entire family – at all times, you can lean on your family and friends to really have that emotional and mental support. It really helps you in the end.”
“Something he said to me was, ‘Make sure you always enjoy what you’re doing because this is the life you’re living. Make sure it’s something you’re proud of and that you keep doing things. You love it.’ , Add.
Rae to star alongside Kardashian in He is all that, his first acting concert. She is excited about the opportunity in equal measure and prepared for the trials she is likely to receive.
“It’s always been a dream for me to be an actress. To be called really one now is crazy. Growing up, I was always in acting classes and watching movies and pretending I was the character,” she says. “The reaction is sometimes a little scary because people don’t really know what they were doing or aspiring to do before they started social media. People base everything I do on, ‘Oh, she started on social media.’ , but without knowing my background. or knowing that I have always been in acting classes. “
Despite her success on TikTok and her burgeoning acting career, Rae says she is very proud of herself for “staying mentally healthy” in the midst of a difficult time.
“Going through life changes, keeping my feet on the ground and remembering where I’m from. There are so many times I’ve been like, ‘This is a lot, maybe it’s a mental challenge,’ and then I want to give up,” she says. . “But then I remember that I got to where I am today, and that I should take every opportunity I can to achieve everything I dreamed of.”