Gwyneth Paltrow and Gabrielle Union are getting real about becoming stepmothers. In the latest episode of Paltrow’s The goop podcast, The Oscar winner, who is already a mother to Apple and Moses, whom she shares with ex-husband Chris Martin, spoke about the overwhelming role of adding two more children to the mix when she married her husband, Brad Falchuk. The television writer is the father of his daughter Isabella and his son Brody from a previous marriage to his ex-wife Suzanne Bukinik.
“I have two beautiful stepchildren, who are the same age as mine,” he said. “When I became a stepmother, when I knew that I would become a stepmother, I thought, ‘Shit, I have no idea how to do this. There’s nothing to read. What do I do? In? Where not? How do I do this?’ “
Paltrow added that she learned a lot about herself through the process, before asking Union how she managed to become a stepmother to her husband Dwayne Wayde’s three children and a nephew they raised together. The The best of Los Angeles Star took from her personal experience, saying that she “tried to do the opposite of what I thought my stepmother did wrong or could have done better.”
“Whoever you are, be consistent so everyone gets used to who the hell you really are and you’re not pretending and then your mask comes off,” Union told Paltrow.
Union also recommended “staying above the fray” and trying not to say anything negative about her stepchildren’s biological parents.
Watch the video below to see Union recreate an iconic scene from her hit movie, 10 things I hate about you with stepdaughter, Zaya Wade.